Are You Dating Your Father? Did You Marry Your Dad?
by www.SixWise.com
You knew there was something familiar about your husband
or boyfriend from the day you met him. Something you couldn't
quite put your finger on, but still, it was there. Then one
day it hits you: He reminds you of your dad!
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Ever wonder why so many couples look alike? It could
be because women seek out men with similarities to themselves
... and their dads!
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Whether this sends you screaming from the house or smiling
with nostalgia, it's a strong belief among some experts that
women do, in fact, seek out men who are like their fathers.
According to one camp, it's because women sometimes have
difficult relationships with their fathers, therefore their
marrying a man like him is a way to try to resolve some of
their ongoing childhood issues. Others say that women simply
like the familiarity of being around someone like their dad.
It's probably fair to say that most women don't set out looking
for a man that reminds them of their father, but if you think
hard about it, chances are that you'll come up with at least
a few threads in common (men, you can do this too by comparing
yourself to your girlfriend's or wife's father).
Women Choose Men Who Resemble Their Dad
A study by researchers at the University of Pécs in
Hungary found that a process called "sexual imprinting"
causes women to marry men who look like dad. In short, women's
attachment to their fathers during childhood has a long-lasting
effect that influences their later mating preferences.
"There seems to be an advantage for animals to select
a mate somewhat similar to themselves genetically," said
one of the study's researchers, Glenn Weisfeld, a human ethologist
at Wayne State University, in a New Scientist article.
"One good possibility is that there are some fortuitous
genetic combinations, which are retained in the offspring
if both parents are similar," he says. "In humans
there is evidence to show a lower rate of miscarriage."
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The findings may also explain why many couples tend to look
similar to one another.
Women Prefer Men to Smell Like Dad
Along with looks, it turns out women also like men who smell
like their fathers, according to a University of Chicago study.
When women were asked to smell two-day-old men's T-shirts,
and asked to choose which sent they'd prefer if they had to
sniff it for the rest of their lives, they chose scents from
men who had disease-fighting genes similar to their father's
and their own.
According to the researchers, this suggests that our preferences
are based on producing children with the best chances of survival
-- and these children would come from a partner with an "intermediate
blend" (not too similar, not too different) of disease-fighting
genes.
What About Women Who Don't Know or Don't Like Their Fathers?
Clearly, marrying a man like dad is ideal for women with
caring, intelligent and loyal fathers. But does this mean
that women whose fathers are less-than-ideal will end up marrying
hard-hearted, selfish men? Or that women who don't know their
fathers will end up unable to find Mr. Right?
Hardly. While women are influenced by their fathers, for
good and for bad, they are also influenced by their mothers.
Women without respectable dads, or with no dad at all, will
likely seek out the characteristics they admire in their mother
in their mate, and likely also in themselves. Be careful though.
Some women without fathers will repeat the same mistakes their
mothers made, and choose men that are unreliable and unsupportive.
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Sources
NewScientist.com
Innovations-Report.com
Lifescript.com