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| What's Your Communication Personality? |
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How do you communicate with your significant other? Are you both on the same wavelength, or are your conversations filled with misunderstandings and hurt feelings? Do they often escalate into shouting matches?
We all have "communication personalities" -- or communication styles -- and some communication styles "click" better than others.
Take the following test to help you determine your style of communication -- and to help you figure where and how you might want to change the way you communicate.
When you're done taking the survey and you see your results, also be sure to use the spaces provided to guess the "communication personality" of others you are close to and have the survey sent to them to see if you are right!
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Couples need to spend a great deal of time together in order to have truly successful relationships.
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Strongly agree |
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B
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Agree |
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C
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Disagree |
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D
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Strongly Disagree | |
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I make it a point to tell my partner everything about myself, including my deepest, most personal thoughts and feelings.
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Strongly agree |
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B
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Agree |
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C
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Disagree |
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D
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Strongly disagree | |
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A certain degree of emotional distance can help keep the romantic fires burning in a relationship.
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Strongly agree |
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Agree |
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Disagree |
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D
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Strongly disagree | |
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Time heals all wounds, even in the context of intimate relationships.
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Strongly agree |
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Agree |
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C
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Disagree |
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Strongly disagree | |
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My preference is to keep negative thoughts and feelings to myself rather than share them with my partner.
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Strongly agree |
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Agree |
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Disagree |
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D
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Strongly disagree | |
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There are certain circumstances when I actually like to let people know that I am angry.
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Strongly agree |
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Agree |
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Disagree |
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Strongly disagree | |
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I've always been known for having a short fuse.
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Strongly agree |
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Agree |
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C
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Disagree |
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D
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Strongly disagree | |
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8.
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When I am quarreling with someone, I am inclined to:
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Say something sarcastic and cutting. |
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B
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Listen to the other person's point of view. |
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Switch to a more pleasant topic. |
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D
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Zone out and imagine myself in a happier place. | |
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When my partner and I dwell too long on subjects we don't agree on, the arguing just seems to escalate and grow more intense.
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Strongly agree |
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B
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Agree |
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C
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Disagree |
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D
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Strongly disagree | |
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10.
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If you got wind of a rumor that your partner was having an affair, you would:
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Pick a fight, no questions asked. |
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B
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Try to discuss it in a calm, rational manner. |
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C
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Start keeping an eye on how they are behaving before mentioning the rumor. | |
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What is your typical method for ending an intimate relationship?
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Start a big argument. |
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B
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Just let things fade out by not calling or returning calls. |
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C
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Discuss the situation to come to a mutually satisfying resolution. | |
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If I feel I am being intentionally provoked or intimidated, my typical response is to:
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Get out of there as quickly as possible. |
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Stick around for a confrontation. | |
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When people confront me, my usual reaction is to say something harsh or snide.
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Strongly Agree |
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B
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Agree |
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C
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Disagree |
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D
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Strongly disagree | |
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I realize it's not terribly mature, but I have been known to make fun of people by repeating what they say in a mocking tone of voice.
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Strongly agree |
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B
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Agree |
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C
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Disagree |
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D
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Strongly disagree | |
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If the person I am dating has been ignoring me for a long period of time, I tend to:
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Confront them directly. |
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Ignore them right back. | |
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When my partner yells, I:
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Try to diffuse the situation. |
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Gently find out what's the matter. |
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Start screaming as well. | |
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Sometimes I'm floored by my own childishness in arguments.
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Strongly agree |
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Agree |
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C
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Disagree |
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D
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Strongly disagree | |
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Making and keeping eye contact during fights is a struggle for me.
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A
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Strongly agree |
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B
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Agree |
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C
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Disagree |
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D
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Strongly disagree | |
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Confrontation is so upsetting for me that I sometimes space out during arguments.
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Strongly agree |
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B
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Agree |
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C
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Disagree |
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D
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Strongly disagree | |
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I tend to withdraw emotionally when my significant other is angry with me.
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A
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Strongly agree |
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B
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Agree |
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C
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Disagree |
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D
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Strongly disagree | |
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21.
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People -- my partner included -- are always confronting me about something or other.
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A
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Strongly agree |
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B
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Agree |
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C
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Disagree |
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D
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Strongly disagree | |
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When I consider all I contribute to my relationship, I often feel under-valued and under-appreciated.
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A
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Strongly agree |
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B
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Agree |
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C
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Disagree |
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D
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Strongly disagree | |
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Even when I knowingly misbehave, I tend to make excuses for what I have done.
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A
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Strongly agree |
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B
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Agree |
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Disagree |
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D
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Strongly disagree | |
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On plenty of occasions, I become overly defensive.
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Strongly agree |
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Agree |
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Disagree |
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Strongly disagree | |
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My primary emotion when my spouse or significant other is mad at me is:
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Frightened. |
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Agitated |
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Furious. | |
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When talking to my partner feels like I'm talking to a brick wall, I get visibly cranky.
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Strongly agree |
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Agree |
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Disagree |
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Strongly disagree | |
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Frequently, I get treated unfairly, and this infuriates me.
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Strongly agree |
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B
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Agree |
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C
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Disagree |
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D
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Strongly disagree | |
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28.
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It may sound strange or silly, but sometimes I imagine that the people who pick fights with me resemble scary monsters.
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Strongly agree |
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Agree |
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C
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Disagree |
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D
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Strongly disagree | |
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I'm not vengeful by nature, but there are rare occasions when seeking revenge can actually be a good thing.
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Strongly agree |
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Agree |
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C
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Disagree |
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D
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Strongly disagree | |
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30.
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I'm convinced that most of the time I am right when I quarrel with people.
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Strongly agree |
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Agree |
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Disagree |
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D
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Strongly disagree | |
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31.
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I'm all for getting even, rather than getting angry.
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Strongly agree |
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B
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Agree |
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C
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Disagree |
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Strongly disagree | |
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32.
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I've always won, and will likely continue to win, virtually every argument I've ever had with my partner and others.
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Strongly agree |
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B
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Agree |
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C
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Disagree |
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D
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Strongly disagree | |
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